How to Handle Workplace Bullying and Harassment

Annie was almost sure of quitting her job in the current company. She’d had enough. And this last incident forces her to think if she would return to her workplace the next day or not. It has been more than a year now that Annie is working in her current organization and reporting to the same boss. However, today she feels she would get choked if she had to report to her boss for just another single day of her life!Workplace Bullying

During her initial days at work, she was told some “not so pleasing things” about her boss. She had also overheard two of her coworkers describing him as one of the most ill-tempered people one can come across. She was a little disappointed; however, she decided to carry on. Annie knew very well that landing such a promising career is not an easy task. It takes huge efforts indeed. “ Come what may; I shall perform;” is what she reminded herself each day and perhaps this is what kept her going for all this time.

However, today was a different story, and she was sure that she would not continue with this bullying nature of her boss. She had already written a resignation letter, and just as she was ready to click on the send button on her email; something drifted her attention.Bullying bossThis was the morning newspaper that she had carried to her table; however, did not read. The newspaper headline read – “Fighting Workplace Bullying and Harassment.” Annie somehow felt that she needs to go through the article before resigning . Perhaps, deep inside she did not want to resign from her position at this moment and was ready to accept anything for a solution to her problem. Therefore, she took some time to go through the article, and this is what she found:

Some facts about workplace bullying and harassment:

  • Almost 45% of the American workforce is experiencing some form of workplace harassment and bullying. Goodness! That almost rounds off to half the working population.
  • Every one in five employees has witnessed coworkers getting bullied at some point of their entire professional span. Unfortunately, these are the ones who choose to have blind eyes and deaf ears to such situations.
  • A good percentage of absence leave arises due to these situations. Many employees have agreed that they take time off from work, just to stay away from bullies.
  • Most workplace harassment is suffered by women and yet 40% employees say that they have been bullied by female superiors! More precisely, Women who have been bullied previously present themselves as “Greater Bullies” before their subordinates.
  • A considerable part of workplace stress issues are related to harassment suffered in the workplace that are causing clinical depression cases.

Reading this, Annie is now convinced that she is not alone who is going through such a difficult situation. And when half the working population is suffering from similar issues, somebody has to find a solution. As the topic caught her interest, Annie proceeds to read the next section:

How do you know if you are really getting bullied?

Now, this is not something very difficult to realize. We do not need people to tell us that someone else is not treating us properly. It is only that we do not want to accept the fact.

Well, getting chided by your boss after a mistake is not what is known as harassment; until it is restricted to the cabin. However, if this becomes a regular affair; irrespective of you committing a mistake or not, then it becomes a harassment case.employees bullyingEmployers are not allowed to yell, humiliate or insult their employees. Your bosses can give you deadlines; however, they cannot restrict you from taking occasional breaks or participating in any fun activity. Further, no one can tell you to stay away from other coworkers in the office. It is absolutely up to you to choose your companions.

In addition, handle job tasks related to your profile for which you are getting paid. If someone is burdening you with other unrelated tasks, that neither interests you nor pays you; then at least try knowing the reasons behind getting assigned to such tasks. If it can add value to your performance in any way, you need to continue. However, if you feel it has no relevancy, then you can consider yourself getting harassed as your workload is increasing and equally suffering.

Annie finds this section so close to her own personal experience. She has had thousands of similar experiences in this short span of time. A gush of anger flows within her. She has now decided to fight the situation and not escape. Moving towards the concluding section, she reaches some essential tips to handle workplace harassment and bullying. This is what she read and recommends others to implement:

How to handle workplace bullying and harassment?

Do not allow the bully to rejoice over your distress:

Be it a bully in school or a coworker at the office, all bullies have one single motive. They want to see you emotionally stressed out. There are people who ascertain their power and right by ill-treating others and seeing them bogged down.workplace harassment

So, you need to keep calm and stay strong. If you lose your composure and behave emotionally, you will not be able to defuse the issue. If you lose your self-control, you can behave inappropriately that can work advantageous for your bully. Therefore, stay calm and have control over your actions.

Keep a written record secretly:

Each time you have been treated inappropriately, make sure that you have entered it in your personal folder on the computer or write it down in your diary. Mention everything in details, including the names of people who were around. Unless, you are sure of discussing these issues officially, do not let anyone to peep into your personal diaries and folders. Bring these records only before HR managers or concerned officials.

Make sure you have a few of your coworkers supporting you:

Now, this is very essential. It is evident that a person who is ill-treating other at the workplace, hold an influential position in your organization. Therefore, taking drastic steps just instantly may not be that effective. So, try informing others before you decide to counteract. It is important to note that you speak only to those who were a clear witness of the situation. Try to find if they are going to spell out the truth at the right time. coworkers supportRecover quickly:

Finally, when you are done with handling such people, it is important that you erase them from your memory. Regain your confidence and know that you are a fighter. Get back to your work and keep improving on the job front everyday.

Employers never want their workers to gain bad experiences while they are working with them. However, there is always a black sheep in every organization who needs to get eliminated.

Annie is now convinced of changing her decision. She has at present learned that it is indeed very easy to come out from such traps. And if you also find yourself stuck up in a similar situation, pull up your sleeves and take actions. It is your bully and not you who needs to quit my friend.

How to Grab a New Job Opportunity with Your Current Company

Well, you have spent a couple of years reporting to the same boss, amongst the same colleagues, handling the same job profile. What next?? You continue working in the same profile and your career growth gets stagnant for a life time. Perhaps it will collapse, if you do not look for something new, something more challenging.

However, the thought of a new job instigates slight discomfort within, Isn’t it?? New job implies new work environment, new colleagues, a new boss- who may not be that supportive, Scary Indeed….Thinking about new jobSo, will you just continue in the same profile just because you are scared of the change? Certainly not.

What if you get a new job in the same office? Sounds interesting.

Landing a new job does not necessarily mean a new workplace. Employers also prefer spinning amongst existing employees; rather than recruiting new ones. Of course if is definitely easier for them. They know you already, they know your talents, they know your limits. Therefore, they can use the whole of it to the benefit of the organization.

However, there is a way to curve out the desired path. You just cannot demand for a job role change when you are already experienced and doing well in your current profile. Again, your employers may desire to drive out some extra work with the same or slightly hiked salary offers. Therefore, before you approach your boss for a job role change, make sure you know how to go about it.

To aide you with this, this article aims to suggest measures of grabbing new job opportunities with your current company. Lets know how:

Am I a perfect fit for the desired job role:

Before you announce your secret desires, make sure you are capable enough and will be equally efficient while handling new job responsibilities.

Now how do you know that?? Try finding out the exact job role from team members of particular department, you want to be a part of. Preferably, speak to the team lead. If you have really built a good rapport with everyone at workplace, you will definitely get a close picture.Discussing about job

Once you are done with your research, question yourself a thousand times if you can really be efficient in this job role. Your employers while recruiting new employees may not have such high standards of selection. However, when they are trying to figure out ex employees handling new job role, they really need to scrutinize sharply. And it is important, as slightest of inaccuracy can impact both job roles. Thus, hampering company growth.

Know What your boss thinks of you:

Again, you have one more reason that screams out the need of having a good relationship with your boss. If you have really worked hard to have impressed your boss, to an extent that you can even discuss your disinterest in the current profile; talking to your boss can be of great help.talking to boss

He/ she can pave out the path for you. Your boss can arrange an interview for you in desired departments just through a phone call. Your probable team lead or new boss can acquire every detail of your relevant proficiency, directly from you boss. And this serves to be of utmost importance.

On the contrary, if you do not really have such good rapport with your boss; never let him/ her know about your secret plans. This is damaging more than what you can even think of.

You may suddenly have someone to assist you in your current responsibilities and gradually this new comer can snatch all the limelight, that was exclusively meant for you. You may stop receiving appreciation despite of your good work and so on and so forth.

Place your sincere suggestion:

Well if you have really worked to add value to your department and organization as a whole, your team mates and even your boss may be slightly upset with your decision.sincere suggestion

Don’t present yourself as someone who is least bothered, as now you are all set to leave. Rather, place your sincere suggestions before the team. You may suggest names of colleagues or newbies, whom you see of great potential. If you feel they can handle additional job tasks and can take the entire department to greater heights of success, let your team lead or boss know about it.

In addition, you can also extend your help for some period of time, until the entire department stabilizes and recovers from the great loss of one very efficient employee. Tell them that it was a career driven decision and you will always remain connected to your former team mates.

Fighting all odds:

Now, you need to know that your performance will undergo a microscopic scrutiny and therefore you will need to be prepared for every scenario – good or bad.Fighting all odds

Everything is not simple. Today we may find 10 people to point fingers and not even one to pat your back. It is frustrating to know this fact, that you will have your former team mates, who can spoil your reputation with your present team mates. They can present your weaknesses in the most magnified manner. There is nothing much you can do about it. You only need to keep trying to be better than the best.

Again, you cannot expect yourself to show hundred percent efficiency, right from your first day. And you cannot compare the comfort level you had at your previous job role to the one you have just started with. You will need to have patience and retain self confidence.

If you loose your calm now, you loose the winning game forever. Take some time to get acquainted with your new job role and then work hard to push your limits.

Now that you are almost at the end of this article, landing a new job, just across the next cubicle or the opposite hall does not seem to be a distant dream isn’t it??

The above mentioned were few essential tips to make a successful transition from one job role to other; while you continuing being at the same workplace, with your colleagues and exchanging occasional Hellos with your former boss.

Small Talk is Important to Grow Big Career

I have always wondered about how this guy sitting in the next cubicle can continue working the whole day without sharing a word or two with any of our colleagues. While it becomes extremely difficult for me to concentrate in the last working hours of a week, he does it with the same enthusiasm.

Well, I guess many of you can relate yourself with my position and some definitely with the guy in the next cubicle. However, there is something that was bothering me for quite sometime. Do I really waste my time in these occasional chit chats?small talk in office

Perhaps, many of you must have been through these crossroad scenarios similar to mine. This thought comes most strongly when you are rushing to meet deadlines. Isn’t it?

Small talk for many of us is similar to life-saving oxygen. 24/7 routine work with no occasional breaks does not drive out the best in us. Rather, it works against our efficiency. However, there are many people who find it difficult to communicate with people around.

We, on the other side consider it as an advantage for them; as they are always a way ahead of time in accomplishing the assigned tasks. On the contrary, they talk in a completely different context. And according to them, this behavior works as a hindrance to their day to day work.

I say this with conviction as I heard it from the horse’s mouth. Yes, you call it my curiosity or anything, I had initiated a brief communication with the guy in the next cubicle, and then he had shared his story. While many of you may not agree to this, there are definitely various positive impacts of having small talk with colleagues and bosses. Believe it or not, these small talks work as a stimulant for accelerating career growth.

Do you want to know how small talk can have some positive impact on your career development? IF Yes, then you will be happy to know that the following section discusses various positive aspects of small talk on your career. So gear up to unveil these untold truths.

Know how small talk can affect career growth:

Add branches to your existing network:

Now you definitely know the importance of good networking in professional life. Don’t you? And how can you build this network without communicating.

Climbing high up on the corporate ladder does not only require expertise, it also requires the art of presenting your skills to people around. And this does not mean writing a perfect resume.good communicator

When you communicate and participate in informal discussions, people identify your interest. Do you enjoy humor, or are you someone interested in facts? Do you take time to listen to what others have to say, or you are only blabbering about yourself? People get to know you as a person and this is important.

If you can be the limelight of any discussion, if you can find your friends getting glued to your discussion, if you can really convince people around – you can call yourself a good orator. While your superiors can consider you suitable for some Human resource or sales position.

Again, being a good communicator attracts more people around. Some of them can bring you different opportunities as well. This is how you add branches to your network.

You can enlighten yourself with fresh ideas and knowledge:

Some things are better understood when heard, rather than reading the same somewhere. Yes, we have the internet to provide us answers to every question we have; there is a difference in communicating with a human and a machine. listening others

You can learn many things listening to the experiences of others, and you can also share yours. You may come across people with common interests and may start-up with new ventures. You may come across new job opportunities from people around .

An easy way to put things before your boss:

There was this thing that you wanted to communicate with your boss. However, you did not know how to go about it. It can be anything. Perhaps, a job role change in the same company or an extended leave that you need to take from regular work schedule. Simply anything.put things before your boss

If you cannot do it through a mail, you can definitely do it over a cup of coffee. Provided, you had built a good rapport with your boss by now.

Working out tiff with colleagues:

If you know this art of small talk, you can never have anyone hating you for a life time. We spend the major part of the day in our workplace. It is not unnatural that you may have some difference of opinion with your colleagues sometimes.Working out tiff with colleagues

However, how can you sort out this awkward situation? Maintaining cordial relation with colleagues at the workplace is an essential professional gesture. Your HR managers do notice these while forming your appraisals. Therefore, the earlier you end the cold war the better it is. Yes, just an occasional Hello with your colleague and then short conversation can definitely ease out these difficult situations.

References play a great role in recruitment:

This is not a secret that when you have someone influential to back your resume, you have better chances of selection. Employers conduct background checks before they confirm your selection. Therefore, if you have built good networks, and they do know your skills and expertise, they can refer you to potential employers.references

You can also learn about new job opportunities if you keep in touch with important and relevant personalities.

Now, these were a few of the reasons that support small talks at a workplace to enhance career prospects. If you are a person similar to me and convinced with these above-mentioned discussions, you can definitely continue with your occasional chit chats that do not hamper your work. For those who are similar to that guy in the next cubicle, you can work out ways of getting used to these required professional gestures, if you do not want to miss out some opportunities.

This was all about the positive impacts of small talks on your career growth. Hope you have found this article useful in your search.

How to Turn an Internship into a Full-Time Job

While you are almost on the verge of ending with your summer internship, a thought pops into your mind – “What if I can still continue to sit in the same cubicle, same company, handle the same job responsibilities; however, this time as a permanent employee?”

Well, when you have this thought in mind, there is one thing you can feel happy about. At least, you did manage to choose an appropriate summer internship for yourself and thereby want to continue. There are many, who fail at this initial task as well. Therefore, congratulations and keep up the good work.Internship Students

Now, turning your internships into full-time jobs is an art not all can do. Just because you were interning with them, your employers are not going to give you that position.

They conduct interview sessions, look for applicants, who have relevant experience or skills and finally decide on one particular candidate they consider being the best match. Therefore, you as a graduating intern cannot expect this job to come well served on a platter.

So, what is the next alternative?

Can you just let go this opportunity and wait until you get lucky the next time?

Well, don’t think so.good strategic plan

Although, it seems to be a tough nut to crack; a simple good strategic plan is all you need to grab this job role as a full-time profession. Yes, believe it or not this is actually that easy.

So, if you are interested in working out this plan, that aims to work wonders in this regard; this is how you can go about it. The following section discusses various steps to turn an internship into a full-time job.

Give up that college grad attitude:

You may be still graduating, or perhaps have just graduated from college; you need to present yourself as a full-time professional, right from the start.

Being late to your classrooms or wearing a pair of jeans and a T–shirt may perhaps be just apt for your college. This type of casual attitude is definitely not going to work on the job front. Therefore, as an intern, try reaching your workplace before time if possible. Follow dress code as directed by the company HR teams.change attitude

Again, you may boast about your weekend parties to your friends, do not think of doing the same with your colleagues in the office. Whatsoever you do on Sundays, your Mondays need to be very energetic and productive.

It is clear that you may not be that efficient with your assigned tasks in the beginning. However, if you can behave in a responsible way and show your enthusiasm in experiencing newer avenues; your employers derive a positive impression of you.

Finally, when you express your interest in continuing in the same job profile as a full-time professional; you are confident that your employer has a positive opinion about you and therefore, may consider your proposal.

Action speaks louder:

Now that you have decided to build a career in this profile, leave no stone unturned to put in your best efforts. If you really do well and bring business to the organization, no one can stop you from getting recognized for the efforts you put.Action speaks louder

Showcase yourself as someone with the “Yes, I can do it” attitude. However, do not get carried away with slight accomplishments. Have your personal, long-term and short-term goals. And rejoice only when you have achieved them. Till then, remember that you have miles to go before you receive that much awaited success.

Be in the HR loop:

No matter what it undertakes to complete your daily assignments, it all becomes futile when your HR is unaware about the whole story.Be in the HR loop

At the end of your internship, you will need to make follow-ups with the HR team, in case you want to continue. Now, there can be a number of interns who have worked in the same profile and have similar potentialities.

What are your chances of selection in such scenarios? Thinner isn’t it?

Therefore, while you are still working as an intern within the organization, try creating a good rapport with the HR managers. Keep them informed about your daily schedules. Let them know that you are definitely having a good time learning with them.

Display the perfect mannerism and leave a positive impression on their minds. Your work is half done, if your HR can recollect you by your name, when you make a call after a month or so.

Apprise your intent:

Well, many find this the most difficult part of the job. There are, in fact, a number of candidates, who look forward in turning internship opportunities to full-time professions. However, only few are practically capable of doing the same.

This is because, they actually do not know when and how to tell their managers about their secret intentions. The best solution that can be provided here is that – start taking actions just a fortnight before your internship ends. Apprise your intentMeet your supervisors and ask for feedbacks. Simultaneously, tell them that you will be happy to hold an entry-level position in this job profile. Be very direct and affirmative while informing about your career goals and aspirations.

Your managers need to get a crystal clear view about your career plans. It is because only then they can offer you interview invitations when they come up with vacancies.

Internship programs last for a few months or so. You, therefore, have a considerable amount of time to decide if you can continue working on this profile for a couple of years or more.

Be honest with yourself and think from every aspect before you decide to convert this internship program to full-time work experience.

Once you conclude and decide to go forward with your plan, follow the above-mentioned steps as accurately as possible.

It is true that employers look for experienced professionals to fill in the vacancies. However, sometimes, they can even opt for fresh, energetic and enthusiastic interns; who have already been partly trained to handle relevant job responsibilities.

Bad Manners Directly Affects Individual’s Career

Well it does not require some superlative levels of IQ, to realize that bad manners do affect our career growth. It is more than evident, that if you are yelling at your co worker this hour, you may very well expect some serious consequences the next hour. Again, is it just fine to miss out some occasional thank-yous, sorries or pleases with your colleagues or that cashier at the cafeteria? Think about it.yelling at coworker

Right from a very tender age, we have been trained to display the best possible etiquettes with people around us. We have spent our school lives imbibing those within us. Therefore, when we set our foot in our professional lives, all of us actually need to behave as epitomes of correct mannerism. However, the truth stands at an opposite track and is an open secret for all.

Don’t you think that with age, following correct or proper ways of conduct, slowly become the secondary concern in our lives? We tend to skip some primary behavioral norms, in the name of work load pressure. The worst scenario is that, most professionals do not even realize that their professional behavior snags their career advancements.

So, if you are putting in all your efforts to perform well or achieving targets easily and still not receiving that much awaited promotion offer letter, you need to think from a different perspective now. It is not unlikely, that you have been cornered as an unprofessional and you are not even aware of it.

This post aims to highlight some souring professional behavior that cumbers your perks. If you can connect with any of these, you already know all reasons behind your stagnant career.

“My work schedule is supreme”

Are your coworkers feeling that you respect your own time or work and not their’s?

Well, if you are not sure with the answer, try this exercise…

Hurry man

Think if every morning, when you are there in the elevator with few of your colleagues and on reaching the floor, you try rushing out of it, in an attempt to be the first one to reach office?? Perhaps, you are ending up dashing the fresher who is just a month old in your office.

Have you ever instructed the person at the cafeteria to serve you your breakfast plate as soon as you have ordered it, because you have plenty of work to complete??

Do you organize team meetings at any part of the day without wanting to know the convenience of others??

Now, if you are doing these things, or anything close to them, that gives a similar impression to your colleagues at your workplace; its TIME TO CHANGE MY FRIEND..

You may have 15 years of vast experience in your domain. You do have plenty of tasks to complete; may be more than anybody else in your company. You do form an indispensable part of your organization. However, can you run the company all alone? I guess NO.

Every employee starting from the cleaner to security guards, managers and CEOs; all play their roles to ensure smooth running of their organizations.

There is no harm, if you wait for few seconds, and allow others to exit the elevator first. Respect begets respect. Your co workers and subordinates know your work load and perhaps the next time you offer them to leave the elevator before you; they will happily do the same for you.

Blowing your own trumpet:

I ME and MYSELF – are the only words in your dictionary.

Oh! how much others are desperately wanting to erase you from their dictionaries.blowing your own trumpet

It is true that you need to sell your skills and accomplishments to climb up the corporate ladder; however, there is a perfect way of doing this. Irrespective of how happy or proud you are about yourself, you just cannot go on blabbering about it, to anybody and everybody you come across.

The sun does not need an external source of light to become visible. Similarly, if you are doing quite well at your work front, you do not need a microphone to announce it to everyone in your office. They will know this easily.

Again, when you want your seniors to consider these and offer you some salary hikes, or incentives and promotions, request for appraisals based on your accomplishments.

Leave some scope for others to congratulate you on your achievements and do not get too busy driving out congratulatory notes from others. Rather, thanking others who assisted you in reaching this position is what will make you exemplary for others and drive greater respect and recognition – something that you are craving for.

Turning deaf ears to others:

Do you use your tongue more than your ears??

Do you feel that you always have the most important things to share??

Are you someone who interrupts others in any conversation, just to speak your heart out??interrupts others

Be honest while answering this. If you get a “Yes” for an answer; no matter how hurting it can be for you, you need to know that people are hating you for this.

This may be a very trivial thing and you may consider it very easy to curb this out from your system. However, easier said than done; you need huge practice and time to give up these bad habits. Start from today to see some significant changes, few months later.

No Sorry no Thank you:

This is something we mostly tell our friends to strengthen the bond; however, it is damaging for friends who are co workers, let alone individuals who are nothing more than colleagues for us.sorry

Make it a habit of showing your gratitude towards all; including that person at the cafeteria and your best buddy at office. This is something that we are taught at an early age and that does not imply, we need to erase it early from our lives.

Most professionals admit that they usually eliminate these words at times of heavy work load or when they are in a bad mood or tensed.

Therefore, it becomes extremely essential, that you practice and make it a habit of saying thank-you, sorry or please whenever required from today itself. So that, one day it will become a natural phenomenon and you will not require any mental preparation or state of mind to express your gratitude.

Attitude makes Habit; Habit makes Character and Character makes or breaks an individual. Therefore, try inculcating the best behavioral norms within you. So that you are not only respected for your professional efficiency, but also for the kind of person you are.

How to Approach Your Boss After a Mistake

How you wished to have a time machine, to go back to that unfortunate moment and erase that one mistake you had made in your assigned task. However, now you have already processed your assignment and it is in front of your boss who has perhaps quickly identified the mistake. You are almost sure of getting chastised by your boss and you know you cannot escape this. You cannot bury the mistake, neither yourself.Approach Your Boss After a MistakeWhat a dreadful scenario and ironically all of us go through similar situations atleast once in our lifetime. Well, man is to err and even though it may appear that you had committed an unforgivable crime; it is not so. In our busy schedules and work load, anybody can make an unintentional mistake – even your Boss.

Now, you need to come out of such situations as soon as possible; so that it does not affect your mental and emotional health; along with your productivity at work. 

Two crucial strategies of efficiently handling these issues are – Accepting or owning your mistake and coming up with a perfect reaction before your boss.

This post has been written with an effort to bring forth some effective proactive approach expected from employees after committing some severe mistakes in their professional life. Please note that the below mentioned techniques are a subset of the two golden strategies mentioned above.

NO excuse please:no-excusesAvoid excuses. No one intends to make mistakes purposely. All of us have genuine reasons behind such blunders. Whatever, the case may be, know that your boss is not interested to know your reasons and therefore, don’t spoil the situation explaining them.

The three “A’s” trick:

accept mistakesAccept- Analyze- Approach. You know you made a mistake and therefore accept it. However, don’t just rush to your boss’s cabin to own it.

So what do I do? Its not that difficult now. Take some time. Sit back and analyze the potential impact it can have on the entire business or the day’s work plan.

Visiting your boss without preparation in such situations is more damaging than going unprepared for interview sessions. Ideally, research on the scenario and come up with effective solutions.

Again, if you are not being able to curve out remedies, simply realizing the potential impact it can have, also counts in your favor. Approach your boss now. You either provide remedies or realize the bitter consequences. Both give an impression that you are seriously concerned and sorry about the entire mishap.

Too much “Sorry” is not your tool: 

no sorryIt has been repeatedly said that you need to own your mistake; however, it is important that you do not term yourself to be a convict, before everyone else does the same for you. Do not over emphasize or be highly apologetic about the situation.

Be humble as well as confident when you approach your boss. Apologize and assure that this will not happen in the future. If you have solutions, place them before your boss. This will give an impression that you are someone who can handle pressure.

Remember this is one of the most important aspect any employer looks for while hiring candidates. So if you don’t prove this ability now……time for doom friend!

Don’t look for shoulder and stop dramatizing:

Once you have realized the gravity of the situation, you are scared. You feel this can lead to huge financial loss or effect company good will. You feel like crying your heart out and you are sure to get sacked.

However, you need to be poised now. It is difficult, but not something that can’t be achieved.

Many of us tend to loose our composure in such situations. We almost narrate the entire story to every person we come across. We spend most of our time walking up and down the smoking zone holding our heads in distress. And we fail to realize that the time we are wasting on such things could be used to drive out solutions.Telling your co workersTelling your co workers about these issues before informing your boss; may have some serious consequences sometimes. One, you are wasting their time as well as yours. Second, your boss can get this information from some of your friends who might have turned foes. BEWARE OF BACK STABBERS.

Feel free to seek help:seeking helpWhile your supervisors are trying to mend and repair the damage, you too ask for help from someone you feel can act as a problem solver. Do not hesitate to ask help. One very important rule of professionalism is to assist others when needed, as all are working towards reaching the common goal.

However, show your gratitude towards that person who helps to clear your mess. Again, inform the authority as someone else is assisting you to solve issues. If you are seeking help from any outsider, be very cautious, as you may need to share some information as well.

A silver lining behind every cloud:

silver lining behind every cloudThe quicker you get easy on yourself, the faster others are over it. You made a mistake and did everything possible to repair the damage. Do not be too tough with yourself now. Get back to your normal life and help others as well to be the same with you.

Remember, mistakes are doorways towards reaching the impeccable. Easy Success is not a good teacher, however mistakes are.

Keep track of subsequent events that are taking place thereafter. Talk to people who are trying to sort out these issues. If you are also working on it, give frequent updates to all concerned people. However, do not be apologetic now. Present yourself in the same manner as you report your daily work schedules.

While you are still working on those issues, definitely you will come up with fresh ideas for areas of probable future follies. Be optimistic and thank yourself for the mistake committed as it revealed these areas that otherwise could not have been investigated. Report the same to your boss. May be this time you are doing something to impress him or her.

Now as we wrap up this section, it is essential to realize that making mistakes does not demean your worth; however, how aptly you deal with such situation is something that defines you as a person. Know how to change your follies to greater accomplishments.

The above mentioned are simple suggestions that you can use when required. You can also add several tricks to this list; however, always remember the two golden rules mentioned above.

How to Make Friends at New Workplace

Getting along with colleagues makes work fun. Some of them become your best friends and this friendship may last for lifetime. With good co-workers your post-work social life becomes exciting. Whether you are alone or with your family, friendship makes your life worth living. But you do not come across good friends all the time. Sometimes you have to take real efforts to make friendship, especially at workplace. You may be at your first job or shifting to a new job in the middle of your career; you may be working in a small company or top-notch business brand; whatever may be the case, you need to know your gig to enjoy your work.Friends at New Workplace

Knowing your co-workers helps you to learn about the corporate culture of the company, participate actively in teamwork and produce good quality work. Just think how would be your life if you are unable to connect with a single colleague? With whom you will share your lunch, gossip and free time with? Yes, it is not that easy to make friends at your new workplace. It is also not advisable to believe anybody and everybody with an innocent face. But there are some strategies to make friendship the right way and with the right people.

  • Be a smiling face: A smile on your face can change the atmosphere within your cube. When you enter the office, try to keep a happy face even if you had a bad start in the morning. Greet your co-workers with a smiling ‘good morning’ or ‘hello’. This will make them feel that you are a nice person and some of them may come up to you to start a new conversation.
  • Make friends in your cubicle: You may find your co-workers talking over cups of coffee in the cubicle. This does not mean they are ignoring you. Since you are new, you must take effort to introduce yourself. Feeling shy is okay. But you should try to say one or two sentences to introduce yourself like “Hi, I am Mary. I joined last week in editing section. What do you people do?” If this does not work, take another chance of connecting with these people during lunch break or tea-time. Ask them ‘Can I join you for a cup of coffee” or ‘Can we have lunch together?”. You will get positive response from one or the other friend.

Don’t disturb anyone if they look busy or go on narrating your background starting from birth.

  • Show interests in others’ hobbies and passions: A brilliant way of striking the right chord is paying attention to your colleague’s interests and hobbies. Have a quick chat with your cube-mate and discuss topics which are not related to work. You can learn about their likes from certain things like the coffee mugs, photo frames, table clocks or other items they keep on their desks.  Questions like “where did you buy this dress” or “where was this photo taken” can be great ways to kick start a conversation. Show genuine interest in them and their hobbies and remember some details that you can use for future conversation.

If any common hobby or passion binds you and your co-workers, you can plan for an outing on the basis of that interest. Ask them if they would like to take their friends so that you get chances to socialize with more people. Even if your cube-mate doesn’t have hobbies like those of yours, they can invite friends with whom you can share your interests. Thus you can make plan for any outing.

  • Don’t spend too much time at your desk: You are not getting positive responses from people around you. That is fine. Don’t worry. Sometimes things do not turn up as we expect or plan. That does not mean you stop blending in with others and simply log at your desk all throughout the day. Walk over to the coffee machine or water cooler or office reception and say ‘hi’ to others. One or the other person will definitely notice your politeness and willingness to talk and like to catch up with you. If they invite you out for lunch or snacks, show your eagerness to join them. Grab this very good opportunity to connect with your new gig and don’t forget to thank them.
  • Go for an office tour: In every office there is one person who is eager to help the newbies. You can ask them to show you the office and introduce you to few people.
  • Find someone like you who is new to the office: There are some offices where people work in groups, share their lunch or spend free time in groups. In such circumstances, you may feel like the odd one out. How to break the ice then? Look around you carefully. You may find one or two people who are new at this workplace and searching for some friends. Don’t shy away from making the first move and invite them for coffee or lunch.
  • Go slow: You hit it off with one or two friends and start sharing everything. Take a pause and think. Have you spent enough time with your new friends to know them well? Are you sure you don’t have any risks from them? It is better to take some time to build trust and take your casual friendship up a notch.
  • Ask your manager for help: You can ask your HR manager or project manager that you are finding it difficult to make new friends. A good manager will surely do something like taking the team out for lunch so that you get to know your friends well and vice versa.

With all these tips, you can make those friendship juices flowing. You must make yourself the person you want to be friends with. If needed, change yourself for good. Remember no relationship can bloom without small adjustments.

How to Deal With Clueless Co-workers at Workplace

In our professional life we get to know one employee who is not easy to get away with. That one person is toxic and annoying. You are embarrassed because that person does not know how to read social signals and act accordingly. Whether you are in a meeting or a lunch, when she sits beside you, she drives you nuts. Since you have your own work, targets and challenges to meet, you don’t want to waste time waiting around for her. She may not be doing all these intentionally; she may be nice and honest. But at times you don’t simply know what to do with that person. It happens. What you need to do is learn some tricks to deal with such clueless workers.Clueless Worker

When the person is a co-worker…

  • Analyze the behaviors of the worker: You must closely analyze the behaviors of this worker and whether she can be rightly termed as ‘clueless’. You must not be wrong in judging her. Sometimes it happens that an individual is really talented but not suited for the particular role, she is playing. Or she is new in the field, so taking more time than usual to learn and gain perfection. Don’t draw conclusion too early. Instead you must help her to learn skills. Spend some time with her asking where they do need help. If possible, talk with your manager regarding her behaviors and try to come to a conclusion that is beneficial for the whole team.
  • Act in a professional way: She might be driving you crazy. Whatever may be the situation, don’t act in the heat of the moment and let your emotions rule over your logical mind. Expressing your bitterness will affect your performance and break your long-built good image. Don’t take resort to condemning, shouting publicly or badmouthing. Remember, she might not be getting the signals you are sending. Since you are at workplace, you must follow the office ethics.
  • Have simple, clear conversation: While talking to that person, always be clear in your words. Be straightforward without sounding harsh. Explain the same point twice if you think she just pretends to understand but actually does not. Don’t be sarcastic because she may not grasp what you are actually trying to say.
  • Discuss the matter with management: You have tried all the means, but failed. You talked with your team members and all of you took steps to resolve her issues, to increase her productivity and help her evolve as a better professional. Now is the time to let another person, someone of higher authority, step in and take the matter in their hands. To fix the problem, the management can talk to her, train her, change her role. If needed, they will fire her. It is up to the management how they will deal with the issue.
  • Confront her if she tries to home in on your achievements: In every office, you find one employee who tries to be the focus of attention by taking credit for work she hasn’t done. If you come across such event, try to confront her politely. Be firm while maintaining that you have accomplished that specific target. So you should be on the receiving end of all praises, and not her. Tell her to reveal the fact as soon as possible. Give her some deadline and tell her you will be taking matters into your own hands if she delays. If this does not work, send a mail to your manager and her mentioning you want to have some serious discussion.

When the person is your boss’s favorite…

If a clueless worker is your boss’s favorite, she can give you tough time as well.boss favorite

  • Find out to what extent this clueless worker’s actions are having negative consequences: If you think her behavior is harmful to the extent that it is negatively affecting the team spirit and some team members have been looking for ways to ignore her by moving to some other projects, bring it to your boss’s attention. If your boss likes her and she is trying to use this factor to remain in the limelight without doing any productive, quality work, talk to your boss. Tell him that she is not adding anything valuable to the team work.

If the fact is that you don’t like your co-worker simply because your boss likes her, you must think twice before taking any step. Be rational while judging her. You raise a complaint against her for no good enough reason; your boss listens to you and moves her to some other team. A new member comes who gives you the same bolts time and again. Is this going to work? So what is the real problem? If you have a personal problem with her attitude and actions, it’s better to ignore her since her behaviors are not causing any potential loss to others, or more specifically to the company.

  • Focus on your achievements and learn to promote those: If you think your boss is not giving you constructive feedback that you deserve, you must take small efforts to get noticed. Your boss may shower praises on your lazy, inefficient co-worker during team meetings or group lunches; you must not get bogged down by all these. What you can do is to do some mouth publicity of your own achievements. For example, in a team meeting where discussion is going on regarding a presentation where your involvement is required, you can ask your boss or other members whether they liked some earlier presentations that you made for some ‘abc’ projects or ‘xyz’ projects. When your boss walks in to your cube to assign you some work, don’t just say ‘yes’. Instead take his pre-occupied mind to visit some of your recent accomplishments asking him how much he liked your work or whether he thinks of ways you can improve. Thus you can let your manager and others know that you are far more capable than that credit-gobbling team mate.

Whether the clueless employee is a co-worker, or someone your boss likes too much for no good reason, you must treat her professionally.

Tricks for a Happier Day at Workplace

Do you struggle for happy days at workplace? The hustle and bustle of modern life makes it almost impossible to feel delighted at work. Isn’t it? Yes, we agree. Since we are living in stressful times, we find it difficult to make our professional life beautiful. But you need not be a creature of the alternate planet to love your work and workplace. Enjoying what you are doing certainly enhances the quality of work. Thus to increase the productivity of employees without affecting the quality of work, companies around the world are going that extra mile to make employees feel happy. Google, one of the world’s top most companies have taken various measures to support its employees and as a result, employee satisfaction has risen by 37%.Happy at workplace

Whether it is your home or workplace, being happy matters the most. Many happiness researchers opine that happiness depends on 3 main factors- situations and circumstances, genes and efforts you take to make yourself happy. While you cannot exercise total control over your life circumstances, you can certainly work towards creating a happy environment conducive for your work. So the next time, you feel like running out of your office, throwing off your laptop or abusing others for a hellish day, take a pause and think what you can do to make your day bright, enjoyable and yet productive. For this, you need not really think out of the box. Try some of these easy tricks to have some outstanding results.

  • Kick start your day with some healthy habits: As rightly said ‘morning shows the day’, you should take steps to make your morning beautiful. Start off your day by waking up early, greeting family members, doing some exercise, taking your favourite cup of tea etc. Don’t check your mails or phone for reminders at home. Remember a happier day at work must start with a happier morning.
  • Give a smiling “good morning” to your colleagues: You may be already late and rushing to reach your cabin. In this attempt, you don’t greet your colleagues. This may be a common workplace scenario which is a sign of a bad day. Instead, give a ‘hello’ or ‘good morning’ to your colleagues and see how fast this small mannerism gives you a positive vibe.happiness at workplace
  • Create an environment conducive for you and colleagues to work together: It does not essentially mean that you pass time while gossiping over cups of coffee. Learn about your colleagues’ hobbies and passion. Small talks on each other’s interests will help building great environment for work. Friendly relations among colleagues will foster team spirit. Genuine compliments like ‘you are looking beautiful’, ‘how do you cook delicious food everyday’ or ‘I just loved your presentation today’ will not only impress the listener but also make you feel positive.
  • Be clutter-free: Clutter says a lot about you. Like you tend to blame your past for your present state of mind, you think you are living your worst days. Not only this, clutter indicates a sense of failure. Be organized; don’t keep on piling up stuff. Decluttering will let you open your mind. Messy office cube, heaps of papers, sticky notes etc. can disturb your mind. For a happy day at work, it is essential that you keep your cube clean, tidy; even if you don’t find time to organize those every day, just arrange books, papers and similar objects in drawers or store them in mini organizers.
  • Make your cube colourful and attractive: How about adding a dash of colors to your space? Colourful notebooks, pens, photo frames, mood-lifting quotes will surely make a lot of difference. Let the energy flow through colours and brighten your mood all throughout the day.
  • Take care of your diet: Happiness is not only a mental state. You need to feel good physically. So taking proper diet and drinking water adequately should be of prime importance. When you are physically fit, you feel energetic. Include loads of protein, complex carbohydrates and good fat in your diet. Go for refined foods or fried snacks only once or twice a week, that too in poor quantity.

Keep some nuts with you always. When you are feeling low or stressed, munch on your favourite nuts, especially walnuts which have omega-3 fatty acids, known for lowering depression.

  • Take a walk: Both for your physical and mental well-being, it is essential that you take breaks and move around. How can you increase your productivity with that aching back or head? If your job demands you to sit on chair all day long, perform some light exercises involving your back, hands, legs and shoulders. Even if you cannot exercise, walk for 5-10 minutes whenever possible. Why not go for walking-and-talking meetings, why not talk over phones while walking?
  • Go for some sunlight: This is another way of knocking oneself up the happiness ladder a few notches. Since you are spending most of the day at office, make sure your cabin get some exposure to sunlight. If not, you must push yourself to step outside and get some good sunshine that will help you to sleep well at night and feel less depressed.
  • Tools to increase productivity: You go to office to produce good work. When you don’t meet your targets you feel trapped in your job and that gives rise to maximum unhappiness. Distractions and procrastination are the two major reasons behind our failure at work. So how to remove those? Since we are living in this digital age, we can use technology to reduce wasting of time. You can install various apps on your phone that prevents you from accessing the internet for some time or block those sites that eat away a major chunk of your time. Stop spending useless hours while posting photos and liking others’ photos on those social networking sites.

Spending an awesome day at work is not that difficult. For a serious dose of energy, play your favourite songs, learn something new, treat yourself, focus on the positive and don’t forget to smile.

10 Things Not To Say At Workplace

Do actions speak louder than words always?  Does your behaviour matter more than what you say? Words are no lesser important than actions. What you say, how you say and what you do not say carry a lot of weight at your workplace. For Rudyard Kipling words are ‘the most powerful drug used by mankind'; Aldous Huxley compares words with X-rays as ‘they’ll go through anything'; and Mark Twain says ‘the difference between the almost right word and the right word is really a large matter’. Such is the power of words. The way you communicate your ideas and expression can create a good impression or shatter your image. Careless words will make people respect you less. Whereas good, strong and positive words will make them love you. Feeling baffled? Read on.not to say at work

The question is what words to use at workplace. The list of such words will go on and on. Rather you should know what words not to use, what not to say at work. If you want people to love you and feel comfortable working with you, you must avoid certain words, phrases or sentences reflective of over-confidence, dominance and ill-behaviours. Sometimes certain things may seem normal to you as a speaker. But if you place yourself on the listener’s position, you will come to know the difference. You may notice a big difference between the words chosen by a good leader, who is positive-minded, proactive and possess good collaborative spirit and a manager whose orders are followed by employees due to fear and not respect.

So whether you are drafting an e-mail to your boss, giving your ideas during a sit-down conversation, discussing project issues with your juniors, casually talking with your co-workers during breaks, you must be careful in delivering your words. Here is a list of 10 things you should limit yourself from saying at workplace:Not to Say at Workplace

1. “It’s not my work”: Sentences like “that’s not my problem”, “it’s not my job”, “ask him/her for this problem, why me?”, “I am not paid for this” are really harsh. This attitude clearly indicates your detachment from fellow workers and their work. A good team member must be a part of other’s success. Your colleague may genuinely need your assistance; so you must try to look into the matter. Another example may be when your manager wants you to learn some new task. Remember learning, relearning and unlearning are keys to successful work.

2. “Oh God! I am so bored”: Being bored means you are not interested in what you are doing. It creates a bad impression on your boss who may doubt your performance later. Talk to your boss in a positive light that you want some new projects to maintain your productivity.

3.  Am I understood? Powerful people never use interrogative sentences like “am I making sense?”, “does that make sense?” or “are you getting it?”. These types of words may make others think you have a bossy attitude. Again these may also mean you yourself are confused or irrational. A better way of asking may be something like “would you like to share your thoughts?” or “let me know if you have any doubts”.

4. “That’s not possible”: “I can’t do this/that’ or ‘this is something impossible’ are phrases used by people who seek to excuses for not completing any hard task. Your manager can easily notice your laid-back, pessimistic and hopeless outlook when you make such utterances. “Let’s see what I can do”, “let’s discuss the matter and try out new ways” etc. can be better replacements for such negative phrases. Good leaders or employees hardly doubt things and thus willingly explore new situations, new problems.

5. “I hate my work”: Ban this type of sentence while at work. Badmouthing any co-worker or saying something like ‘I hate this company/ manager/ job’, “my job stinks” can jeopardise your image. Whoever may be the listener, whatever may be the issue or what circumstances you may be facing, refrain from using such phrases.

6. “But I sent it in an email”: What if the other person didn’t reply to your mail? Can’t you follow up with another mail or phone call? Don’t make this an excuse to blame the other person. Remember ego problems may give rise to serious issues at workplace.

7. “I didn’t get enough time”: Even if you are a productive employee, such sentences may make your boss feel that you are not serious about your work. You may be really busy with various projects and running out of time. That is absolutely okay. What you can do is to ask your boss for their help in prioritising your tasks.

8. “We have been doing this that way only”: Doesn’t this sentence reveal a conservative and close-minded approach? Your boss will always want you to approach problems with a fresh outlook. If you are stuck in the past, how can you be creative and innovative? Show your eagerness by saying something like “That’s seem quite interesting. Can you explain in detail?”

9. “You should have…”: We all love people who speak eloquently. If you want to nurture your good impression, don’t preface sentences with words like “you should have…” or “you could have..”. This is a judgemental, fault-finding approach which is not acceptable in a workplace that fosters collaboration and team spirit. You can go for sentences like “If something like this happens in the future, I recommend…”.

10. “It is what it is”: Instead of saying “it is what it is”, which sets limits on one’s abilities and desire to change something, say “What if?” or “Let me see this once again”. This means you are not surrendering to circumstances and trying to bring in some change.

Never use words and phrases like “you guys”, “actually”, “kind of”, “sorry, but…”, “just”, “I hate him or her”, “I don’t need the money” etc. which could be career-limiting and even get you fired. Be professional in whatever you do and whatever you say- that should be your work mantra.