All of us spend a maximum span of our waking hours in respective workplaces; amongst colleagues. To be very precise, we spend around forty to forty five hours every week with our coworkers and bosses.
The feeling of acceptance is therefore imperative for a peaceful and harmonious workplace and the life outside it. Now, if you can see and sense hatred or grudges your coworkers are having against you, your professional life becomes miserable and your performance level degrades.
Even though we cannot be admired and loved by everyone around; being hated is definitely not an alternative. In an exceedingly competitive workplace environment, no one will outrightly shower praises upon you; however, if you can be cordial and carry the right approach towards people; you will definitely not be hated; if not loved by all.
Professionals who are hated by their coworkers always give ample reasons to attract such ill feeling from others. And paying a little attention to their behavior towards you, you can easily make out if you are disliked and hated by your coworkers.
So, let’s find out what makes your coworker hate you and how you can know this unpleasant secret.
Why are your coworkers secretly hating you?
Noted below are some reasons that can earn you extreme dislike from your coworkers. Read them and check if you are displaying any of these behavioral attributes:
You never follow elemental official norms:
When they are striving hard to follow and abide by all rules and regulations, you going through an easy time is evidently envious for them. And here, they are not to be blamed.
You are a great talker and that’s all you do:
Well, if you are having a misconception that your coworkers are simply loving you for the home made muffins you bring in for them quite frequently, or for the ability to converse very well with others; just hold on for a moment.
Ask yourself if this is the only thing you do. Being a great charmer can only help if you can carry on similarly with the work assigned to you. However, if you are never seen working, you are somehow disliked by other employees; even when they are relishing every bit of the cookie you have for them!
You are an annoying workaholic:
Having fun all day is not something you are supposed to do on your professional front. Having said so, occasional chit chat, enjoying fun activities with coworkers, spending lunch and coffee breaks together are equally essential. Professionals who are skipping these regularly and are seen glued to their desks, are not really liked by others around.
Being disconnected with the rest of your workplace and focusing only on your work, may be considered as an effort to prove your work to be superior and most significant. So beware and think twice before you decide to skip yet another office gathering.
You present yourself as a braggart:
The only thing that I can say to all braggarts is that, the sun shining bright, does not require external illumination to make it’s presence visible to all. When the sun is present in the sky, everyone can see and feel it.
Similarly, if you are really good at your job. Perhaps, you are best in the lot and have a solution to all problems that arise. Don’t demean your expertise by continuously bragging about it. Everyone can definitely notice your caliber. However, if you are continuously bragging about your success stories; you are lighting a candle to the Sun. What a lame attempt, isn’t it?
You lack etiquettes:
Now, this involves a number of things. Be it bad email formats, to loud chewing habits; it can be anything that presents you as an unprofessional and ill mannered individual. One of my former posts on professional etiquettes can help you to identify different wrong professional etiquettes that you might showcase before coworkers.
How do you know your coworkers are hating you?
Below mentioned are few very easy to notice symptoms that your coworkers are definitely hating you.
You never receive good morning wishes or smiles:
Well, every workplace culture has professionals wishing each other every morning and at the end of working day. It showcases one’s cordial relationship with other employees. However, if you have a number of colleagues who do not wish or exchange occasional smiles; you may consider that the milk has gone sour.
You are never invited for social gatherings/informal meetings:
Many a times, colleagues and team members either arrange for meetings over coffee or lunch, Sometimes, they go out for a movie together or a brunch on weekends. However, if you never receive such invitations, probably they want you to find out the bitter truth.
You are always given monosyllable or one liner answers:
You always receive too short replies for your “how are you?” and “how was the day?” questions from colleagues sitting in the neighboring cubicle. This is a deliberate attempt by your coworker to send you a message.
So, get it right and work to improve. Sometimes, you find the next cubicle colleague strictly communicating through emails only. This is because he/she is certainly disappointed with you and has perhaps started hating you.
Well, in a professional environment, you will never find people telling you right on your face that they hate you. Diplomacy is a necessary evil for maintaining a professional demeanor. However, observing subtle changes in behavior are just sufficient to know that you have perhaps gone wrong somewhere and thus you have people disliking you.
So, now that you know the reasons and the signs showing that your coworkers hate you secretly; working to improve strained relationships will definitely not be an impossible task to accomplish.